Outlook

I enjoy people watching.  I used to love sitting in the Union at both LSU and SLU watching people walk by and wondering what a day in their lives were like. There are days where I missing having customer facing jobs for that reason.  In the years that I worked at Blockbuster and Best Buy, I met some very interesting people. Some of my regular customers almost became like family.  Some of my co-workers really are my extended family.  I have learned so much from these people throughout the years.  Many of them have helped mold me into the person that I am.

I look at some people and wonder what makes them the way they are.  I think some people are genuinely naive and try to find the best in everyone.  It may not necessarily be a bad thing to have those qualities, but when it starts affecting your work habits and family life, there needs to be a cut off point.  It is so hard to sit back and watch someone you love let someone else destroy their life because they are afraid of being alone.  No one deserves to be used and taken advantage of, but at some point, you have to say enough is enough.  Single mothers shouldn't have to take care of deadbeat dads that REFUSE to get jobs.  I don't know if anyone else knows this, but jobs aren't handed out.  Jobs don't just find you; you have to be the one that shows initiative to work.  Men like that should be ashamed of themselves and women who allow and enable it should not be allowed to complain.

I look at several people I know that are getting married in the next year and wonder if they have any clue what they are getting into.  One couple has been together for a long time and I has definitely had their ups and downs.  They have broken up and gotten back together several times in the years that I have known them.  I think they finally reached the point in their relationship that the only left for them to do was to get married.  I find it honorable that they are making this commitment to each other.

Couples 2 and 3 just met each other a few months ago and barely know their prospective mates.  Couple 2 are a little older, but are mature and have really good jobs.  Do I think they are insane?  Absolutely, but they have several months to work out kinks and I think they will be okay.

David and I didn't date for very long before we got engaged, but we had also been friends for a while before we got engaged.  Our engagement was also a year.  That year made such a difference.  There were still so many things we had to learn about each other, especially since we weren't going to live together before we got married.  This first year of marriage has proven to be one of the best and hardest years of my life.  I had no idea that I was lose one of the most important people in my life.  I had no idea that no matter how hard you try to be frugal, there is always never enough money.  Working through the tough times is what marriage is about.  Loving each other's imperfections and making each other a better person is what makes it worth it.

Couple 3 is like a tornado in a trailer park.  Not only is there no steady jobs, advice is not wanted. There are going to be a lot of hard lessons to learn, but then again, that is what marriage is about.  I wish them well.

We have a new family member moving in with us tonight.  Will update when more information is available!